I specialize in Marriage/Couples and Family Therapy and have been a huge success in this field ( you can google Riverdale Therapy & Counseling Services and read some of my reviews). I also have great success with individuals who are going through transitions causing anxiety and/or depression, and/or grief and angst. Patients who are dealing with the loss of loved ones, and/or are going through a divorce, find themselves overwhelmed and in turmoil. That is because those two losses are almost a tie when it is rated as the two worst things that can happen to people and/or families. Mood & personality disorders need a therapist who pays attention to detail so they can correctly diagnose whether or not their patient just has features of a personality disorder and/or a mood disorder, or if they definitely fall into one of the mood and/or personality disorders. I work with a psychiatrist that I have met with in person and because I accompanied one of my patients, I was able to see his professional manner and saw how he concluded which medications would be most helpful for my patient. Unfortunately, I only work with one psychiatrist because I have met with many that were not as good with matching the clients symptoms with the right diagnosis. Some doctor, psychiatrists, and therapists can be creative and think outside the box when other therapies and medications have been a let down and have failed. The psychiatrist that I affiliate with works out a payment plan as he only accepts a few insurances; and he does try to make his visits affordable when patients are not in the few plans that he accepts. This psychiatrist has had many successes with my patients who needed to be medicated and they all really like him. I would have liked to have a longer list of psychiatrists so that other doctors who offer many other insurances could accommodate my patients in their networks. The fact that I met this doctor and have spoken about many cases with him, made me feel that the patients I sent were in good hands and I really trust that he will medicate their presenting symptoms and help them find relief.
I believe that my success rate, especially with couples who are married and who are not married is based on the free mandatory phone consultations that I do which each and every person before accepting them as a new patient. All phone consultations are mandatory and free and they take 5-15 minutes. I do this to save new patients time and money and to also insure my success. After so many years of working with this population, I can tell them whether or not I am the right fit for them. I am extremely patient and I listen intently to everyone's presenting issues and also ask a few pertinent questions to determine if they will get to a better place by coming to Riverdale Therapy & Counseling Services.with me as their therapist. Once all that information is collected and I feel I can get you to a better place, I explain how my therapy works and also we talk about my fee. If all of that is acceptable, then we try to make an appointment that will be mutually good for all of us..
It occurs quite often, when I need to turn potential patients down and I make sure they understand why I do not feel we would be a good match. Sometimes, I can just tell that our personalities will not mesh. I will explain that I am doing them a favor as I do not want to waste their time and/or money . Not taking a case can depend on a gut feeling that I get while talking to them or they may have a presenting issue that I know will remain the same despite any type of therapy that I would have provided. Call it woman's intuition or whatever else you want to refer to it as, but because I am very intuitive and take in each and every word as they describe their symptoms that are making them seek out therapy. I also want to know what urged them to pick up the phone that day and seek out counseling. I can often gauge their temperament as we speak .Some potential patients (are a dead give away) are hypersensitive, too touchy, over reactive and/or overly sensitive. I tell them that I can pick up their hypersensitivity and do not think I would be the right match for them; and I do try to give them some other options. I am not for everyone because I give a lot of feedback and the truth may sometimes be too painful for a certain type of patient. I know that by telling the truth to patients, it will cost me some patients, but losing a few patients for the sake of the truth is a small price to pay in order to walk tall and keep one's head up, due to having dignity and a personal code of ethics. I have to be truthful and ethical or this job would not be tailor made for me. I have the best success rate because I vet out my patients and I do not accept those potential patients who would be too thin skinned for my type of therapy. I know that I am not the right fit for certain patients and by vetting out potential patients through the mandatory free phone consultation, I eliminate the chance of hurting their feelings and get to insure my success rate. I have a feel for who will bond with me and who will not. I get a gut feeling about with whom I can get to a better place and with whom I will have no success at all. I will accept them into Riverdale Therapy & Counseling Services after listening intently to why they are seeking therapy at this time and I also ask them some pertinent questions. If I feel that I can get them to a better place I will go on to explain the type of therapy that I do and discuss my fee.
I love my job and I tell my friends that my job is like going to a different movie a few times a day. I can hear it in their voices if they are really "in it to win it" . I only accept those patients who understand that this type of therapy is like making an investment in their most important asset (their children and family). You must truly be thinking about couples/marriage/family or individual therapy and be willing to invest your time and money to learn how to become a more successful parent, individual, spouse, partner and/or friend. To get a free and mandatory consultation please do not hang up on my recording as I get back soonest to potential patients who leave their name, number and best times to call them back. I get back to have a brief chat where I listen intently to your issues so I can understand what made you pick up the phone to call a marriage/therapist. I am one of the few therapists in this field who screens their potential couples for a 5-15 minute verbal screening and this is done by giving my mandatory free 5-15 minutes to vet out my patients. I am not the only therapist who works with this population, but I may be one of the only therapists who screens my couples and will not take someone just because they called some therapist who popped up on-line.
I work hard to keep marriages from failing, especially when there are children involved; but all couples have the right to navigate through their marriage in a more emotionally intelligent way and to smoothly sail through their lives as a successful couple.
Perhaps you are feeling anxious, depressed and/or hostile and never thought that your personal life could be this difficult, confusing and totally overwhelming? You may be having difficulty making decisions and realize that you keep repeating negative patterns that are self destructive and have no clue how to stop. Personal issues such as anxiety, depression, lack of impulse control, relationships with spouse/partner and/or other family members such as your children and/or parents may be making you feel like life is one big struggle. Life can certainly pose road blocks and lead us down bumpy roads. Whether you have communication problems with your spouse, child, coworker or others, changes can always take place when you are willing to work with a qualified therapist.
I am a licensed clinical social worker who is totally dedicated to my patients. As a qualified therapist I will teach you to get to know yourself. I will encourage you to reach within yourself so that you can identify and label your feelings. Knowing how you feel and why you feel a particular way is essential to problem solving. Once you get in touch with your feelings and begin to problem solve you will become better acquainted with yourself. Understanding yourself and why you are not comfortable in your own skin is paramount to becoming the kind of person you want to become.
If you are having issues with your partner or spouse I can help you recognize if your present relationship is too toxic or just needs improvement in specific areas. I support and guide the many couples I work with while they make their decision to improve their relationship; or I teach them how to separate and terminate a relationship that is causing one or both partners too much pain. My goal is helping couples salvage their troubled relationship by giving them tools and techniques that insure that they understand each others' needs. I teach my couples how to express themselves accurately so that they can get what they want without sending the wrong messages to one another. Avoiding divorce and/or painful breakups is my personal goal.
I can empower you to be a happier individual, spouse, partner, parent, child, friend, coworker and/or boss by teaching you how to control personal rage and angry impulses which are causing irreparable damage to your relationships. You are more credible when you are in control. "Loose cannons" win the battles but lose the wars while damaging their relationships with other people in their lives.
I have seen my patients make changes in themselves and/or in their environment, and those changes have allowed them to embrace their lives in a more meaningful and passionate way. Watching my clients as they internalize valuable information and recognize that there is another way of handling their problem allows my clients to communicate more effectively with others. There have been so many misguided people that have walked into my office having no idea as to what would make them feel more fulfilled and content. Many say that they are just seeking happiness but when asked "what will make you happy", they really can't put their finger on it. Together, in my office, clients feel comfortable and they do open up to me. I listen intently to everything they say; and we do figure out what they can do to insure a happier existence in the near future.
It feels amazing to witness and watch my patients as they disentangle their past and present issues with hopes of finding themselves for the very first time. They become empowered to examine their past as I convey it's importance. I help my clients understand how and why getting in touch with whom they have become and why they are choosing to act out in negative ways in their present life is impacting negatively on many of their relationships. I explain to my clients why their present day behavior is not cultivating nor insuring a smoother and more peaceful path toward personal fulfillment and having a happier existence today. I give them tools so they can sail more smoothly through their lives right now. A better today makes for a better tomorrow; and I explain why their former lives are negatively impacting their present and future. Understanding your past can give you and me, as your therapist, clues and insight which will help us decipher why you are the way you are today. Understanding your past can help change your present and future lives because we are who we are today because of the lives we have lived thus far. Once my clients get this concept, they understand the importance of working together to unravel the past issues and traumas, with hopes of insuring that tomorrow will be better. The idea of having a brighter tomorrow is what propels them to continue their therapy; and my clients actually look forward to coming to their next session.
I never stop appreciating the fact that through therapy my clients get in touch with themselves and find that they can truly be happy. They gain true insight which allows them to know what they have been missing and why. Witnessing my clients self-actualize and grow exponentially makes me know that I chose to be an agent of change for the right reasons. Not only do I constantly seek a chance to make an improvement in the lives of my patients, but I am also committed to making a difference in their lives that will inspire them to become their personal best and they do. To me, making a difference that positively impacts the lives of my patients, is not only empowering, but makes me want to reach out and help many more people who feel they have lost their way and want to feel more grounded. Watching and witnessing the quality of life improve in the lives of my clients is priceless! I
If you are seriously thinking that you need to find a therapist to whom you can speak candidly, I encourage you to call me, Lorna Hayim-Baker from Riverdale Therapy and Counseling Services now at (917) 270-9595 to set up an appointment so that we can meet face to face and talk about the reasons that are compelling you to seek out a therapist at this time. You can also e-mail me at [email protected] or text (917) 270-9595, but I get back soonest to those people who do not hang up on my recording and leave me their name, best number to reach them and a few good times when they will be answering their phone to avoid phone tag. I call everyone back but if there is a recording or voicemail is full I will possibly try one more time. I used to get back to everyone in 24 hours but with so many inquiries, it may take me closer to 48 hours; but I do call back everyone who leaves a working number. I answer every text and email but I get to see the texts and emails late at night and it is too late to call back and give the free consultation that is mandatory and free. If I am not in session, I answer every phone call personally because I understand that people are in emotional pain and getting a recording can be a big turn off. I pick up my calls if it is right before a session, or at the very end of a session, to let the first time caller know that I will call them back as soon as my last patient leaves. My existing patients know I will get back to them as soon as possible. I would not feel like an ethical, attentive, genuine, and compassionate professional if I did not respond to calls coming in through out the entire day.
I listen carefully to what propelled you to make this first call; and I am not judgmental. It is you who must make the first call and speak to me directly; and I will arrange an appointment around your schedule and mine. All calls will be returned within 24-48 hours if you leave a message stating your name and number. It is a must for you to slowly leave your name and spell it if you think it is a difficult name to get right; and clearly state the number where you want to receive a call-back and what hours you will be available to receive that call-back.
My goal as a solution focused therapist is to help you uncover your true potential and lead a life that is worth celebrating. While we can not change painful situations from the past, it would be helpful if I can learn what strategies you have already used in the past in regard to "coping" and "problem solving". This information, if used wisely, will allow me to recognize negative patterns and/or inappropriate behavior that have impacted negatively on reaching your goals. Once you get "it" and understand why you keep "spinning your wheels", you will be self-propelled to get "unstuck" and embrace a "commitment to change".
If you are truly ready to seek out a positive path to growth and well being or are just looking for extra support and guidance, I am the therapist who will empower you to tackle your challenging situations in a whole new way! Let me open you up to new options if you are sincerely ready for your life to move in a new and more promising direction!
Call Lorna Baker at (917)270-9595 or send me a text with your name and number or an e-mail; but remember I get back soonest to those who call me. Do not hang up on my voicemail as I will get back to you and if we are a match, (and I will know that by giving you the free phone consultation), and can then schedule your first appointment.