It may be that life isn't quite the way you pictured it would be. Perhaps you are feeling anxious, depressed and/or hostille and never thought that your personal life could be this difficult, confusing and totally overwhelmiing? You may be having difficulty making decisions and realize that you keep repeating negative patterns that are self destructive and have no clue how to stop. Personal issues such as anxiety, depression, lack of impulse control, relationships with spouse/partner and/or other family members such as your children and/or parents may be making you feel like life is one big struggle. Life can certainly pose road blocks and lead us down bumpy roads. Whether you have communication problems with your spouse, child, coworker or others, changes can always take place when you are willing to work with a qualified therapist.
I am a licensed clinical social worker who is totally dedicated to my patients. As a qualified therapist I wiil teach you to get to know yourself. I will encourage you to reach within yourself so that you can identify and label your feelings. Knowing how you feel and why you feel a particular way is essential to problem solving. Once you get in touch with your feelings and begin to problem solve you will become better aquainted with yourself. Understanding yourself and why you are not comfortable in your own skin is paramount to becoming the kind of person you want to become.
If you are having issues with your partner or spouse I can help you recognize if your present relationship is too toxic or just needs improvement in specific areas. I support and guide the many couples I work with while they make their decision to improve their relationship; or I teach them how to separate and terminate a relationship that is causing one or both partners too much pain. My goal is helping couples salvage their troubled relationship by giving them new tools and techniques that insure that they understand each others' needs. I teach my couples how to express themselves accurately so that they can get what they want without sending the wrong messages to one another. Avoiding divorce and/or painful breakups is my personal goal.
I can empower you to be a happier individual, spouse, partner, parent, child, friend, coworker and/or boss by teaching you how to control rageful and angry impulses which are causing irreparable damage to your relationships. You are more credible when you are in control. "Loose cannons" win the battles but lose the wars while damaging their relationships with other people in their lives.
I have seen my patients make changes in themselves and/or in their environment, and those changes have allowed them to embrace their lives in a more meaningful and passionate way. Watching my clients as they internalize valuable information and recognize that there is another way of handling their problem allows my clients to communicate more effectively with others. There have been so many misguided people that have walked into my office having no idea as to what would make them feel more fulfilled and content. Many say that they are just seeking happiness but when asked "what will make you happy", they really can't put their finger on it. Together, in my office, clients feel comfortable and they do open up to me. I listen intently to everything they say; and we do figure out what they can do to insure a happier existence in the near future.
It feels amazing to witness and watch my patients as they disentangle their past and present issues with hopes of finding themselves for the very first time. They become empowered to examine their past as I convey it's importance. I help my clients understand how and why getting in touch with who they have become and why they are choosing to act out in negative ways in their present life is impacting negatively on many of their relationships. I explain to my clients why their present day behavior is not cultivating nor insuring a smoother and more peaceful path toward personal fulfillment and having a happier existence today. I give them tools to acquire a smoother ride in their present lives which is now. I explain why their former lives are negatively impacting their present and future. Understanding your past can give you and me, as your therapist, clues and insight which will help us decipher why you are the way you are today. Understanding your past can help change your present and future lives because we are because of the lives we have lived thus far. Once my clients get this concept, they understand the importance of working together to unravel the past issues and traumas with hopes of insuring that tomorrow will be better. The idea of having a brighter tomorrow is what propels them to continue their therapy; and my clients actually look forward to coming to their next session.
I never stop appreciating the fact that through therapy my clients get in touch with themselves and find that they can truly be happy. They gain true insight which allows them to know what they have been missing and why. Witnessing my clients self-actualize and grow exponentially makes me know that I chose to be an agent of change for the right reasons. Not only do I constantly seek a chance to make an improvement in the lives of my patients, but I am also committed to making a difference in their lives that will inspire them to become their personal best and they do. To me, making a difference that positively impacts the lives of my patients, is empowering and makes me want to reach out and help many more people who feel they have lost their way and want to feel more grounded. Watching and witnessing the quality of life improve in the lives of my clients is priceless! I
If you are seriously thinking that you need to find a therapist to whom you can speak candidly, I encourage you to call me now at (917) 270-9595 to set up an appointment so that we can meet face to face and talk about the reasons that are compelling you to seek out a therapist at this time. You can also e-mail me at [email protected] I am an attentive, genuine, and compassionate person, who listens carefully to what propelled you to make this first call; and I am not judgemental. It is you who must make the first call and speak to me directly and I will arrange an appointment around your schedule and mine. All calls will be returned wihin 24 hours if you leave a message stating your name and number. It is a must for you to slowly leave your name and spell it if you think it is a difficult name to get right; and clearly state the number where you want to receive a call-back and what hours you will be available to receive that call-back.
My goal as a solution focused therapist is to help you uncover your true potential and lead a life that is worth celebrating. While we can not change painful situations from the past, it would be helpful if I can learn what strategies you have already used in the past in regard to "coping" and "problem solving". This information, if used wisely, will allow me to recognize negative patterns and/or inappropriate behavior that have impacted negatively on reaching your goals. Once you get "it" and understand why you keep "spinning your wheels", you will be self-propelled to get "unstuck" and embrace a "commitment to change".
If you are truly ready to seek out a positive path to growth and well being or are just looking for extra support and guidance, I am the therapist who will empower you to tackle your challenging situations in a whole new way! Let me open you up to new options if you are sincerely ready for your life to move in a new and more promising direction!
Call Lorna Baker at (917)270-9595 or e-mail me at [email protected] to make an appointment.